Archive for October, 2012


There’s a tale about a poor, wizened old farmer who saved very hard to buy a horse to help plow his small farm.  When he finally bought the horse, his family and his whole farming community celebrated with him. However, within a few days, the horse jumped over a fence and disappeared.

“That’s too bad”, everyone told the farmer. “You just got the horse and now it’s gone”.

The farmer replied, “Maybe bad. Maybe good. Who knows?”

A couple of days later, the horse came back to the farm, accompanied by several other fine horses.

“That’s great news”, everyone told the farmer. “You’ve become rich in horses”.

The farmer replied, “Maybe bad. Maybe good. Who knows?”

A few weeks later the farmer broke a leg when he was thrown off one of the horses he was training.

“That’s terrible for this to happen just as things were getting better for you”, everyone said.

Again the farmer replied, “Maybe bad. Maybe good. Who knows?”

A few days later, a group of thuggish armed soldiers appeared at the farm to demand the farmer risk his life to fight a war he had no desire to fight. However, the soldiers left the farmer alone when they saw he had a broken leg and couldn’t fight…

The moral of this tale is that what we label as “good” or “bad” is only a judgment on our part. Nothing is intrinsically good or bad. Seemingly bad events can be good and vice versa. We determine whether an event is good or bad. I can think of times when I feared something bad would happen. On occasion it did. However, it often turned out to be good.

There were also times when the “bad” thing I feared did not happen; and I later wished it did. You likely can too. Events such as divorce, relationship breakdown, getting fired, going bankrupt, accidents, illness, etc. are usually seen as “bad”. However, many people later realize such “bad” events are actually harbingers of great good. On the other hand, hundreds of millions of people, around the world, dream of winning a big lottery prize. Yet many big lottery winners will tell you it’s the worst thing that ever happened to them. Everything is either “good” or “bad” according to how we choose to view it.


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When we are in alignment with our desires, our feelings are high and light. We feel good. However, when we are not in alignment with our desires, our feelings are low and heavy. We don’t feel good. W experience low, heavy feelings when we interact with people we dislike, when we perform tasks we dislike, when we face unpleasant, untrustworthy and/or dangerous people or situations. We don’t feel good when we follow paths which takes us away from our desires. Such bad feelings, sometimes called “vibrations”, are warning signals telling us something is wrong. We can use our feelings as radar by moving towards those people, actions and circumstances which make us feel good, while quickly leaving those people, actions and circumstances which make us feel bad.

In a career setting, bad feelings at a certain firm may mean we should leave it. Bad feelings during a business deal, purchase, sale etc., signal we should seriously reconsider our course of action. Bad feelings about a person often mean that person does not have our best interests at heart. Bad feelings among strangers, people we aren’t sure we trust, and in other unfamiliar or potentially menacing situations, mean we should flee immediately. Our lives could be in danger. Many crime victims report something felt wrong just before crimes were committed or attempted against them.

Since our feelings are our natural guidance system, when we make choices based on our feelings, we make our best choice. Nobody can make better choices for us than we can and we must not let anyone make our choices for us. Neither should we try to make others’ choices for them.

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Party crashers are mostly associated with teenage parties. However, even the most exclusive affair an fall victim to party crashers. For instance U.S. President Barack Obama’s January 2011 dinner party, in honor of Indian Prime Minister Manmohan Singh, was very publicly crashed by aspiring TV reality show stars Tareq and Michaele Salah. The two proudly posted pictures of themselves, at Obama’s bash, on Facebook. Unwanted experiences can be likened to party crashers.  Unwanted guests don’t appear out of nowhere. They appear if they are part of our consciousness. Party crashers are most likely to appear when they are expected and/or feared.

Similarly, we don’t consciously invite unwanted people and experiences into our lives. However, if we concentrate on them, through negative feelings such as fear or contempt, we are likely to experience them. The law of attraction is not affected by our intention. It is only affected by our concentration. It brings us more of what we concentrate on. If we have no expectation or fear of party crashers, they likely won’t appear. If they do appear, we will easily be able to dismiss them. The same is true of unwanted experiences. Unwanted experiences are created by our thoughts and emotions as much as desired experiences.

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Several years ago, a friend wanted to throw a surprise party for his girlfriend. But not the usual surprise party. Where the supposedly surprised person knows exactly what to expect and when.Yet they’re expected to pretend to be surprised and…well, you know. He wanted something different for his girlfriend’s party.

My friend was driving his girlfriend to his home, after her birthday dinner. A knowing smile played on her face when she recognized cars, of friends, parked near his home. They walked in the door. Silence. She was expecting everyone to leap out and yell, “Surprise”. My friend said, at that point, she began to look puzzled.

My friend found an excuse to lead her down to his basement. Downstairs, I greeted her, dressed in my best Halloween judicial robes, complete with a wig that would have made GQ Magazine. Had it been around in the 18th century. A group of friends were seated around a bare wooden table. At that point, the woman was very puzzled.

In a solemn voice, I began to read off a list of “charges” against her. The first charge was for being “an incredibly sweet, sexy angel”. She laughingly plead “guilty”, but we insisted on holding the trial. Witness after witness testified to the the veracity of the charges. The “guilty” verdict was unanimous. My friend’s girlfriend rather enjoyed her “punishments” which included gifts, massages and weekend spa trips.

This rather zany surprise party started a trend, among many participants, towards setting our inner zany free. The Law of Attraction works as well for zany as for everything else. Zany attracts more zany. Could you use more zany fun? I suspect most of us could.

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Download these amazing, inspirational Mind Movies and use them whenever you want.  There are short movies for money, health, attract a woman, attract a man, spirituality, family and friends. I hope you like them. Feel free to share your feelings about them with me. All the best to you!


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Throughout this blog, suggestions are used instead of more commonly used affirmations. Let’s examine the differences between affirmations and suggestions and why I believe suggestions are more effective and powerful than affirmations.

Affirmations are:

  1. Declarations that something is supposedly true.
  2. Are stated in the first person.
  3. Often contain the words “I” or “My”.


 I am abundant, powerful and healthy.

My work is a blessing for all

 I am becoming more masterful each day at motivating people.


Suggestions are:

  1. Something to think about…rather than a supposed statement of fact.
  2. Are stated in the third person, as if addressing someone else.
  3. Often contain the words ‘you” and “your”.


You are abundant, powerful and healthy.

Your work is a blessing for all.

You are becoming more masterful each day at motivating people.

 The following are reasons why I believe suggestions are more effective and powerful than affirmations:

  1. Since the early 20th century, behavioral scientists have realized that suggestions are the most powerful way to influence our subconscious minds.   For instance, the seminal and highly influential book by William Walker Atkinson, published in 1906, was called, “Suggestion and Auto Suggestion”. NOT “affirmations and auto affirmations”.
  2. Suggestions are stated in the third person; as if you’re addressing someone else. This gives them the power of coming from The Source. To quote directly from “Suggestion and Auto Suggestion”:

“One should talk to himself as if talking to another person.  Let it be a suggestion instead of an affirmation.  Instead of saying, “I am courageous and fearless”, say, “John Smith, you are courageous and fearless…every day, you gain courage…” (p. 188. Suggestion and Auto Suggestion)

When we speak of “I”, we isolate ourselves from our most powerful allies: The Source as well as universal consciousness and other people. We stand all by ourselves. Suggestions draw upon the higher powers, whereas affirmations draw only on our own personal power.

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The word “forgive” brings to mind a long, hard struggle. When people talk about forgiving, they often say things such as, “I struggled for years to forgive X for what they did. Now I’ve finally done it. I think…”

Forgiving is a struggle by it’s very nature. The Law of Attraction explains why. Suppose a friend tells you they’ve forgiven someone.  What is the first question that comes to your mind?

“What did they do to you?”  Your friend responds by telling you how that someone did them wrong. They relive the bitterness of the event yet again. Even if your friend doesn’t tell you how they feel they were wronged; it’s a pretty safe bet their thoughts will return to it. At that point, they’re back concentrating on the bad thing again. Since your friend concentrates on the negative event; the Law of Attraction will bring more such bad things into their experience. This negative cycle can go on and on…often for an entire lifetime.

Instead of trying to forgive people; it’s far better to develop the habit of genuinely wishing the best for everyone. Use the sun as your model. The sun doesn’t discriminate. It shines equally on everyone and everything. Regardless of whether you’re a person or a bird or a snake; regardless of your race, color, gender, intelligence, economic status or any other consideration…The sun shines because that’s what it does. The wind, of course, blows equally on everyone and everything too.

When you develop the habit of wishing the best for everyone; good or bad, right or wrong; you needn’t bother trying to forgive anyone. Moreover, by concentrating on wishing the best for others; you will draw great good into your own life.

The Law of Attraction doesn’t differentiate between you and others. It merely brings you more of the thoughts and emotions you put out. So you can’t possibly succeed in wishing good for yourself, and those you like and wishing bad for those you don’t like. It’s either good or bad. So build the habit of wishing the best for all. It’s good for you.

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