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Many performance experts estimate success is 80% mindset and 20% activity. This makes sense. If hard work was the most crucial component, the most successful people, in every field, would be the hardest workers. Even the most casual observation demonstrates this is not true.
Our mindset has an enormous impact on every aspect of our lives from career to love.  A positive mindset paves our way to everything we want in life, while a negative one constantly drags us down, like a millstone, around our neck.
It is often said that you can adopt a new mindset in 21 days of doing daily positive affirmations, watching subliminal videos and/or similar activities. Is this true? Let’s look at an example.
You are 35 years old and you have a common mindset that “you weren’t meant to do anything big?”. Or your mindset could be “you’re basically a timid person”. Or some other limiting mindset. You know it isn’t compatible with the career and life you want.  You want to get a new one.
Score one for you. You awareness puts you well ahead of the majority, who never question their limiting mindset. But, can you replace it with a more positive one in just 21 days?
Not likely. The unwanted mindset has had 35 years to take deep root in both your conscious and subconscious  It has built fast, efficient neural pathways throughout your nervous system. It has become your automatic thought pattern. It is part of you.
Your mindset has also shaped your world. There is something called confirmation bias, which causes us to notice and attract people, information and experiences into our lives, which confirm our biases. Not only do your thoughts reflect the unwanted mindset. Your environment reflects it too.
This means you tend to read books, watch movies, listen to conversations, vote for politicians, belong to unions, have friends etc. who reflect your present mindset. Generally, your whole world confirms and reinforces it. It will not go away easily. To believe you can completely replace it in just 21 days is setting yourself up for disappointment and frustration.
You Need a Scorched Earth Policy
If we are serious about adopting a new mindset, we need to adopt a scorched earth policy towards everything that fights against it. This means making changes in what we read and expose ourself to, how we spend our time and, above all, the people we hang out with.
Nothing has a stronger influence on a person than the people they spend the most time with. As Jim Rohn famously noted;“You are the average of the five people you spend the most time with.” We can’t succeed in changing an unwanted mindset as long as we surround ourselves with people who reflect it.
Hanging out consistently with the wrong people drags us down, and makes it impossible to adopt an improved mindset. Hanging out with the right people will do much of the heavy lifting of adopting your desired mindset. Such people make positive change natural and almost effortless. So we need to be choosy about what we accept in our lives and even choosier about who we spend time with. This means ending or reducing relationships with people with unwanted mindsets.
It Takes Real Sustained Effort to Change Your Mindset
Truthfully, it could take two or three years of sustained effort to fully adopt a new mindset. Beginning to adopt a new mindset is like crawling on a dirt road versus zipping along on the fast, smooth superhighway of your old mindset.
You should expect slow progress, as your new mindset takes root. Most of your early victories will be small. Barely perceptible, in fact. Your  early changes whisper to you. They don’t shout. For instance, you find yourself thinking just a little more confidently than you used to. You find yourself being a little more proactive, without thinking about it. You find yourself seeking challenges you used to avoid.
Slowly your new mindset begins to compete with the old unwanted mindset. It scores a few victories here and there. You cheer it on. This inspires you to increase your efforts and determination. Change come in stages; bit by bit. Celebrate each small and large victory along the way! Of course, there is never a final destination, but the journey is much more fulfilling in every way!
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A few years ago, I watched part of a very forgettable comedy movie. It was about a young woman going through tough times. Every time she encountered a problem, she’d recite an affirmation. For instance, when a date stood her up, she’d say something like, “I am very attractive. Anyone would be proud to date me…” The dubious comedy was derived from the woman’s obvious disbelief in her words. This is a major problem with affirmations. If we affirm something we doubt, we generate negative energy. This pushes our vision away from us. Which is the opposite of what we want. What can you say, instead of affirmations, to get closer to your vision? Keep in mind that your vision (whatever it is) is always something you have experienced in the past and are experiencing right now. You simply want more of it. Whether it is more love, career success, freedom, fame, money or anything else. I suggest a gratitude statement, in which you express gratitude, for your experiences of your vision in the past, present and what is coming to you. This statement is true, because you ARE grateful for your past and present experiences of your vision. You need not pretend to believe anything you doubt! For instance, if our vision is of more financial wealth, you could create a gratitude statement such as: I am grateful for the wealth I have enjoyed in the past, which enabled me to experience….(Example: good food, shelter, clothing etc.) I am grateful for the wealth I enjoy now, which enables me to experience…(Example: holidays, paying your rent or mortgage etc.) I am grateful for the even greater wealth that is coming to me, which enables me to plan for…(Example: my new home, more vacation time, greater freedom, a legacy for my family etc.) Use whatever words inspire you the most. The key is to link the greater good you wish to receive with good you have received in the past and good you are receiving right now, in a chain of gratitude. This is powerful! In the video below, a young boy express gratitude upon receiving a chopping board for a birthday present. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=576wl8j2jFM Please comment on and share this post if you find value in it. Many thanks and Happy Manifestations!

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Many self help gurus urge us to make lists of our goals in different areas. For instance; our fitness goals, career goals, social goals, family goals, relationship goals. The problem with focusing on several goals is that it dilutes our concentration. Weaker concentration produces delayed results, weaker results or no satisfactory results.

We experience quicker and more powerful results when we concentrate on only one major goal at a time. Such concentration builds power. As the old adage goes; he who chases two rabbits will catch none. Rather than make a list of goals; clarify the one goal which is most crucial, right now, to manifesting the change you seek. This is the goal you need to concentrate on.

Check out the article below for some great tips on how to focus more powerfully on your vision.


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It is important to realize, both logically and emotionally, that you don’t have to laboriously search for your desire and drag it, kicking and screaming, into your life. Your pursuit of your desire is a two way street. 

For example:

If you want a new home; there are homeowners who’d like to sell their home to you; and real estate agents who’d like to make the deal happen.

If you want a new job: there are companies who are willing to pay you to use your skills and ambitions to help them.

If you want a new lover; there are plenty of compatible people who want someone like you as their new lover.

If you want to entertain people, there are many people who want to forget about their problems for a while and be entertained by you.

Every good thing that you desire in life is attracted to you just as strongly as you are attracted to it.




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Inspire comes from the Latin words “spire” meaning spirit.  Inspire literally means “in the spirit”. You can’t be any closer to anything than if you are “in the spirit” of it. If we are truly inspired, we are doing it, living it, breathing it. To be truly inspired is to become that thing which inspires us. To become so intimate with it that it becomes part of us.

An inspiring desire in one that we not only passionately want but we know exactly WHY we passionately want it. We want to be it.

So ask yourself; What Is Your Passion?

  • What makes you happy?
  • What makes forget what time it is?
  • What feels natural for you to do?
  • What do you love to talk about?
  • What are you unusually skilled at doing?
  • What would you do even if you never got paid for it?
  • If you had 12 months to live, what would you spend your time doing?

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For instance:

If you desire a certain sum of money; multiply that sum by two. Now plan how you would invest and spend your money. What difference would it make in your life?

If you desire a 3 bedroom 1,600 square foot home, think of how you’d live in a 2,800 square foot 4 or 5 bedroom home. What sort of kitchen would you want? How would you use the basement and extra bedrooms?

If you desire a lover you find attractive; plan how your life would change if you enjoyed a lover you find absolutely ravishing.

Our minds are flexible and once we expand our minds, they will never shrink back to their original size. This is one of many amazing things about our minds. Preparing to receive something bigger than your desire makes you more comfortable with your desire and may pave the way for something even better.  

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Everything you desire is already in your life, to some degree. No matter what you desire, you are already enjoying some of it right now. Accepting this concept is crucial to making the powerful Law of Attraction your personal servant and bringing much more of what you want into your life.
This concept needs to be grasped both logically and emotionally. You don’t seek to create something out of nothing. You don’t seek something unknown. You don’t seek something you’ve never had before. You don’t seek something alien to your experience. You simply seek to experience more of something you already enjoy NOW.

You seek to draw more of something you already enjoy into your life. You seek to expand on something good in your life. You need merely find the parts of your desire you now enjoy and gratefully expand them so that they fill more and more of your life.  Think of your desire from the mindset that you already enjoy something and you’re going to enjoy more and more of it.

For instance:

  • If you seek improved health, you seek to expand on the energy and good feelings you already enjoy
  • If you seek wealth, you seek only to expand the money supply you already enjoy
  • If you seek fame, you seek to be known and liked by more people. There are already some people who know and like you. So you simply seek more of what you already enjoy
  • If you seek love, you seek to expand and deepen the love which is already in your life…

Everything you desire is a form of abundance. Thus every desire you have, or will ever have, is to expand the abundance you already enjoy. Your situation, with your desire, is similar to a couple who have enjoyed a few dates together and decide they want to spend more time together. You are already enjoying some of your desire and you want to spend more time with it. You want more of your desire in your life. You’ve been dating your desire for awhile. You enjoy your relationship with your desire. Now you want to invite it into your life.

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